I hate that my Mom doesn't have a phone in her room at the home. I miss being able to pick up the phone and chat with her for hours on end like I used to. Because I've been so sick lately, I haven't been up to see her as much as I should. (I didn't want to make her sick, and then have her pass it on to the other residents.) But I couldn't call her and tell her this - because she doesn't have a phone.
See where this is going?
I told my sister to let her know, and my sister got sick as well and wasn't going up. So last night my sister-in-law gets this panicked phone call from my Mom, who used the phone at the nurses desk to call and make sure everything was ok. She didn't call me herself, because she can't remember my phone number anymore. Her short term memory is pretty much shot. My sister-in-law called me, and I called my sister, who went down to see her and assure her we were all ok.
Then my sister (who doesn't call me unless she wants something), called me to tell me I need to go see Mom more. Did she pass on any of my messages? No. Did she tell Mom that I loved her and was thinking about her? No. Did she tell her that sometimes with the shifts i'm working it's too late for me to go see her? No. All I got was "you need to go see Mom more". Arrghhhhhhhh. And of course, this is my closing week, so I won't be able to get up there until Friday. I can't go to see her first thing in the morning, because that's when the doctors make their rounds and the patients have their appointments for treatments and such.
So hopefully when I do get up there, she is ok. And my sister isn't there. I had some words (that I won't repeat) with her on the phone, so I'm pretty sure I won't hear from her now at all, unless she really really needs something. Like lots of money. Or a kidney.
Maybe not even then. Grrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.
3 comments:
Oh honey, I am so sorry. Sometimes it would be easier to pick your family...
Is there any way that your mom can get a phone? Can you call in to the nurses station to talk to her or even to leave a message?
Big squishy hugs to you.
I can leave messages at the nurse's station, yes. But there's only so much you can say in a message. I'm wearing her down on getting a phone .. I may just have to hook one up and go from there.
Big squishy hugs back !! xo
I say just do the phone thing. Then it's there if you need to call her, she can call you and you don't have to worry about sibling/parent guilt trips.
(...and just to make you laugh, because this is about nurses and patients and patience, my word verification is 'housed'...I do hope she has nicer doctors than him.)
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